Think am on a roll, there were days and weeks I didn’t write a bit and now am all fired up… only this time with a lot more personal stuff…. did I say I’m quite a private person?
Yeah you guessed it… this could be asked in many different ways and in different situations but what seems to the usual societal conditioning is the fact that if you show you are too eager (sometimes just eager) in an ensuing date/relationship it may be detremental! The idea somehow doesn’t hold water for me, then again what would I know about relationships when I haven’t had much luck myself 
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Human behaviour patterns suggests that showing keenness or being too open about ones own feelings makes them rather vulnerable and therefore knowingly or otherwise your partner maybe tempted to step in your space by sheer choice or accident seeing the available opportunity! BUT this thought itself brings me to the next question which is kind of out of bounds… what partner (if they really care for each other) would take, or seek to take ,an upperhand in a relationship just because one is much more expressive and eager than the other? Doesn’t that sound bizarre? Doesn’t that jar your thought on dating or loving someone? If we don’t believe in miracles they never would happen to us and if we don’t trust people we would never get to know them better. And if we never dared to take that extra step to be vulnerable we’d never known what it was to be loved….? I might have written off all skeptics here! Amen!
I am no counsellor but it stands to reason in my mind that should such a situation exist in a ‘loving/caring’ relationship it really wasn’t out of love and respect in the very first place? Well then what is love? How much of youself do you reveal to your loving other when you date? There is no book of rules, there is no yardstick to measure it with but all I am trying to get my head around is… where do u draw that magic line? Should you really draw one??
Whats with this general belief that ‘playing tag’ (playing hard to get) is good. It keeps them interested? Suspense makes them feel they have to find out more and even if the search and the chase was not worth it… it seems fine just becase there was a chase involved! Something wrong with that picture? Why do people fall for this? And why is being vulnerable bad?
Do people just fall in love mostly cause there is a chase, cause there is that sudden adrenaline rush to know more! Play that game and u’ll be successful. Like I have said before I am not experienced in this art at all LOL nor have I ever played the tag so does that make me boring? Does that make love uninteresting? Maybe I should have been born a few decades earlier! Well hang on, they did that then too. Didn’t they? Read your history textbooks! So back to my golden question… how much eagerness is good to show? How would you suss where to stop, should you at all? Isn’t love all about the flow! Prove me wrong!
